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This is to bring to your attention this astounding problem that sits at each of our own very back doors. One does not begin to recognize this sort thing is common in America until IT HAPPENS TO YOU.

Once your family becomes the victim of this sickness that apparently travails our nation, once you’ve witnessed your family’s destruction, for no reason , when your whole being is rendered powerless and your struck with the inability to function, if you finally manage to crawl back up, just a little bit, and start searching for some answer, for some explanation, for some form, any form, of help that might be available then you find these web sites

My reaction to this is MY GOD, why is it necessary for these organizations to exist in America, the Land of the Free. where politicians cite their devotion to the Sanctity of the American Family? If this is so common, so well known about, why doesn’t our government take a stand against it, instead of not only allowing it to happen, but being the actual fuel and force for this sickness, that allows it to exist and continue?

Here I thought we were all snug and secure. I had certainly worked hard enough for 30 years to ensure that my family would not have to work as hard as I did. My husband and I both worked two jobs while raising our grandchildren. I decided that these children’s fathers should help us out and I worked for 5 years to make that happen. I can tell you, the dads did not appreciate that one bit. Had I known then what would happen because of that, I would have worked a bit harder and let those dads go free.

There finally came a time when I felt that with the dad’s help we were in a position to allow Mom a chance at raising her children. We could afford a small place for them to live together as a family. When Guilford County Child Support Enforcement ,(Greensboro North Carolina) became aware of the new arrangement, they immediately stepped in and offered Mom a government check in exchange for her child support through their Work First Program..

It’s called an AFDC check (aid for families with dependant children)(some refer to it as welfare) I voiced my objections over and over, even got a court order. Still they confiscated the support and gave Mom the check. The check was less than 1/3 of the support she was receiving from the dads. I can tell you , I went round and round with those people, but it was of course to no avail. I asked where the remaining $700 a month was and was told that was forfeited when she accepted the check. I immediately begin contacting all our government officials. None of them responded (except the Governor’s office to say it was being done correctly).

This had to be a mistake. I filed a complaint and found myself in court, arguing my point against Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins,  I stood not a chance against that experience. I am neither a lawyer nor a politician. I lost the case on a technicality, not because I was wrong but because as Judge Sammie Chess explained, I was in the wrong place to be addressing this matter. He proceeded to tell me I needed to file a motion in Guilford County District court.

Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins, objected “Your honor, this is a court of law and you are babysitting this woman.

Judge Sammie Chess, said yes, Mr. Robbins, but it’s my court, and she’s right and you know it.

Judge Sammie Chess told me.. Ms. L, the State of North Carolina has a conscience. You are correct when you call it a mistake. The State of North Carolina does not want to be taking these children’s money and if you make them aware of this, they will want to correct it.

I am thinking, is Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins NOT representative of the State of North Carolina?
Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins used the Federal Law that mandates child support distribution to present his defense.
He read this which I will quote from the copy he gave me..
“Distribution of collected support..: (1) In the case of a family receiving assistance from the state, the state shall pay the Federal Government the Federal share collected: and retain or distribute to the family, the State share.
He did not read the next line, “In no event shall the total of the amounts paid to the Federal Government and retained by the state exceed the total amounts that have been paid to the family as assistance by the State” and it goes on..

Now, as I said, I am not a lawyer, but what I read there is you take the money back you gave the family and give them the change. But that’s not how he read it. That’s not how they interpreted that law. During this debate in this courtroom, this man said to me, “You don’t even have two of these children right now do you Ms.L.?” I said no, not right now.” He said but that’s only temporary, isn’t it Ms. L.” I said yes,it is only temporary” He smirked and said, “Of course it is Ms. L. of course it is.” My head was reeling, surely this man was not threatening me? surely Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins was not threatening my family because I brought this matter up?.

As it was, I had opened a door that had been closed for thirty years. I had very reluctantly allowed the children to visit their biological grandfather. The oldest, the girl was 12 years old. He had never had anything to do with them. Now he was back, stating he had changed, I spoke with his wife who supported (and still does) everything he said.
I had legal custody; if the visit did not work out I could just go get them. In less than a week after I allowed the visit, I was served with a court order granting him custody of the two boys, I could have the girl back, he did not want her.

Now here I sit and hear this “threat” as I took it to be, coming at me from this obviously powerful and influential man. I could barely utter my closing argument.

I told Judge Sammie Chess my head was spinning and he told me to take a break and try again.
I’ve been called tenacious, but I found myself backing up, there was too much at stake here, but no, come on girl, Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins could not possibly be involved in my personal custody battle.

The boys have been gone four years now. They tell me things that wrench my gut and rip my heart to shreds. Their mother, already emotionally challenged has been destroyed emotionally by this, so has their sister. The boys are 13 and 14 now. Their fathers have been relieved completely of their child support obligation, I feel sure in exchange for their testimony in court. The boys beg me to help them, please grandma, please grandma, please. They have asked the GAL Attorney Kathryn Lindley and Judge Teresa Vincent to let them come home. Judge Teresa Vincent has ordered their grandpa and his wife to stop being naked around the boys. They have been ordered to stop sleeping naked with boys and to stop touching the boys buttocks and their testicles.

Judge Teresa Vincent has advised them that one of them needs to try to remain sober in case the house catches on fire. Judge Teresa Vincent has warned me not to speak of these matters with the boys again or I will lose all visitation. Judge Teresa Vincent ordered me to pay Grandpa’s attorney fees.

Judge Teresa Vincent  ordered me to pay additional monies to Attorney Kathryn Lindley above the $3000 I had already paid her. I had sent Attorney Kathryn Lindley in writing, a letter that I did not wish to pay her any more, because of the astounding inaccuracies and obvious prejudice she displayed in her reporting. The letter in writing meant nothing to Judge Teresa Vincent, she ordered me to pay Attorney Kathryn Lindley more despite the steps I had taken to relieve myself of that burden.

Judge Teresa Vincent told the emotionally challenged Mom..”JL you will never have your children again.”

I am recovering from my nervous breakdown. I work for a wonderful company who takes care of it’s employees and they helped me hang on, so I still have my job and a second job to try to pay off the $20,000 I spent trying to keep my family intact.

I typed in a google search”does anybody really care about these children?” and several websites popped up. I know ..strange…it had to be God

Then from there, I found others. This kind of injustice is everywhere. Tearing families apart and allowing child suffering for no reason.

I was not glad to know I have company in this agony. It saddened me deeply. It shocked me. It terrifies me.

I don’t know what God is doing here, I don’t know what he wants me to do, and I become so compelled to do something to make the public aware. I have written all the politicians I can think of. No response of course.

 I have written to Oprah, and the kids wrote to Montel. I have written to the press. I guess this is small fry or no one wants to open that issue about, WHERE IS THOSE CHILDREN’S MONEY and how many other children has this happened to? The custody, the abuse and the child support issue.

Now I hear accusations on the television and radio about Sarah Palin possibly “Obstructing Justice” interfering in State Affairs involving her family. Making things “happen a certain way” and it cements in the question no one will answer …

Did Deputy Attorney General Gerald Robbins manage to carry out that subtle threat and somehow obstruct justice in this child custody case? Is that what Attorney Cindy Hatfield meant when she said I had been railroaded?